Yesterday R and S celebrated their one year wedding anniversary. That means a year ago today I was deep into a weeklong procession of activities (in sticky hot pre-monsoon, then monsoon, Kathmandu and Chitwan weather) to honor our good friends and their union with each other. Since summer is wedding season, I figured it was about time to write about what a traditional Nepali wedding looks like. Our friends are Newari, so some of the wedding details are specific to Newari culture, but it gives a good idea of how big of an event a wedding in Nepal can be.
I plan to break the discussion of R and S’s wedding into six blog posts with lots of pictures. Here was the basic schedule of events:
Supari– engagement ceremony (“supari” is the Newari version, Chetris do one that is a little different called “sai pata”)
Janthi– groom’s procession (can happen before or after wedding ceremony… for R and S it happened both times)
Swayambar– “actual” wedding after this ceremony they are considered married
Bidaai (in Newari, “pita biee”) bride’s family says goodbye to bride
Anmaune-groom’s family welcomes the bride
Sagun– (Newari) more bride welcoming
Mukh Herne– (Newari) “Face Looking” ceremony, welcoming groom to bride’s home and conclusion
All of this happened over the course of 7 days. So stay tuned, you’re invited to the story.